How and when can you get relationship advice from a friend

There are many exciting things about a romantic relationship. You can look forward to the honeymoon, your Instagram debut, and learning more about each other. There are many other fun things that take place outside of the relationship. For example, telling your friends about your new boo is great…until the going gets difficult.

You might be pondering whether you should tell your friends about your new, wonderful relationship in the middle of your first lovers’ fight. You don’t want to be judged by your friends if you aren’t forgiving or refuse to welcome your partner back in the fold after a fight. Worse, they might discover that your partner isn’t really that great for them before you are ready to admit it. You now face the possibility of a friendship split, which could lead to a worse relationship and a rift with your friends.

According to Hinge, 84% of Gen Z singles surveyed admitted that they are not always honest with their friends when seeking advice on dating. They will also sometimes omit crucial details. Asking for advice from friends is always a delicate matter. Do you really want them telling you what to do? Or do you prefer them to express your feelings? – but asking for relationship advice can be more difficult. These are some considerations to make when deciding how much to tell your friends and how much you should listen to what they have to say.

Your friends know you better then anyone

It is a good idea to talk with your friends about your romance struggles and triumphs. They know you well and have seen you at your best.

Melissa Hobley is a dating coach who is also the chief marketing officer at OkCupid. She said that she advises newcomers to dating apps to get their friends involved in setting up their profiles. A well-informed observer can be extremely helpful. A friend might remind you that even though you may think you are a basic or boring person, you can be a genius with one-liners and a karaoke sensation after just one drink. You can learn from them all the wonderful and interesting traits that make you unique. This will help you to choose which traits to emphasize when you’re trying to attract a partner.

That valuable, intimate-yet-outsider perspective also comes in handy when you need advice, Hobley said. Hobley said that her best friends even as an adult are the Indiana friends she grew up alongside. They know how she handles conflict and are more likely than others to understand your personality. They’re experts on you and have done years of research. A professional in the field will give you a better opinion than someone who doesn’t know the subject.

Find out who your friends really are

However, not all friends are soldiers who are willing to go to war with you. Others are people you can go out with but don’t trust with the important stuff. People who are committed to your well-being should be more open for advice.

Hobley suggested that you ask a few questions of your friends before asking them about your love life. Do they want to take you out if you get promoted? Did they support you at your lowest points? Do they check in on the anniversary of the death of your grandparent? Are they there for you in both good and bad times? Are they consistent? Are they consistent when they say they will have brunch?

If you answer “yes” to all of these questions, you can be sure that your friends are truly interested in helping you live the best life possible. Ask them questions about whether they think you should be with someone or break up with someone. They will tell you based on their beliefs about what is best for you.

Keep in mind, however, that not all friends are down for having a good time. You can use your best judgement to decide if a friend is trying to help you break up with a significant person.

It can be hard to give and receive friendly advice

It can be difficult to tell a friend that their partner is cheating. There is always the chance of alienating a friend who isn’t ready to admit that their significant other is a red flag.

The Hinge found that half of Gen Z singles polled admitted to not being honest with their feelings when giving advice to their friends. They have a variety of reasons. 54% stated they didn’t want to hurt the feelings of their friends, while 47% said that their friends aren’t ready for honest feedback. This hesitation only undermines trust. 86% of Gen Z singles also question the advice they have received from their friends. More than half of those who seek advice from their friends aren’t in a healthy relationship.

Although it is difficult to give and receive honest answers, 88% of singles surveyed said they believe it is important to seek out advice from their friends about who to date. From the moment you show your friend a picture of the guy you were matched with via an app, to the day when you tell them that you are afraid it won’t work out, friendly feedback is part and parcel of being a “friend”.

Logan Ury, Hinge’s director of relationship sciences, cautioned in a press release. Ury stated that you are the one in the relationship and not your friends. It is crucial that you can learn to listen to your feelings and understand how they feel about you.

It is difficult to balance your self-awareness and the natural, helpful, and sometimes frustrating, urge to seek out opinions in group chats. Your friends will hopefully help you discover who you really are over time. You can use that knowledge about yourself to evaluate the guidance your friends give you regarding your relationship. Then, consider it and make your own decision.